We all get stuck sometimes. I get stuck. My wife gets stuck. Writers get stuck, actors get stuck, and programmers get stuck. You get the point. Against our desire and willpower, we know where we are but don’t know what to do to move forward. Sometimes I just want to scream out, “Someone just tell me what I have to do so I can do it and move on! God I dont know what to do with my life”
When you’re going after your passion, you can get stuck at several points, especially when everything is so brand-new. You might get stuck trying to find your passion, or perhaps you’ll get stuck coming up with ideas on how to find a job associated with your passion, or maybe you’ll get stuck on how to go about pursuing a job you know you’ll love. All of this is perfectly normal, don’t feel bad if you’re stuck and don’t know what to do with your life. All of these things happened to me and I refuse to feel bad about it now or ever.
Like Bruce Wayne, I have similarly figured out that the reason we get stuck is to learn how to get un-stuck. I’m going to share with you some of the things I use when frustration hits. If you reach a road-block, these techniques will be the force you need to push through. They are simple but very powerful tools, so don’t underestimate them if they sound too easy.
1. Contact the Right People
If you surround yourself with people already doing what you want to do, you are far more likely to succeed. There is no end to the amount you can learn from them. The motivation these people will give you cannot be quantified—your dream, your goal will be staring at you in the face. Moreover, you will have a group of people who have all been in your situation, stuck and trying to figure something out. Together, the amount of knowledge you can gain from the right group of people is invaluable—like 21 Epic Entrepreneurs Illuminate the Path to Passionate Work.
Where do you start, though? How do you form this group? Well, it’s up to you to take action. The right people aren’t going to fall into your lap. You have todo something to make it happen.
Get out there and talk to people doing what you want to do. Find out where they hang out online by searching for forums and blogs on the topic. Email them, tweet them, and comment on their blogs. Attend meetup events of people with your interests.
If you’re feeling really stuck, just pick one small thing and do that. Then, pick another small thing. Try and connect with as many people as you can. They might not all respond, but some of them will!
A great article to check out is Scott Dinsmore’s Rule #1: Surround Yourself with Passionate People and From Tim Ferriss & Warren Buffett to Tony Robbins & Seth Godin: How to Create World-Class Relationships.
2. Form a Mastermind Group
This is similar to my earlier point, but it can be easier to accomplish. Here, you’re looking to connect with people who are all trying to achieve the same (or similar) goals.
This group can meet once or twice a month, and be available to each other for pitching ideas and getting objective feedback. You all celebrate each others successes, and help keep each other accountable and motivated.
Similar to Contact the Right People, you’re going to have to find where these people hang out, online or in real life. Visit those places, talk to people, find out who’s just starting out or in a similar place as yourself. See if they want to form a mastermind group.
3. Make a Plan
A lot of times I was stuck because I didn’t have a plan. I knew where I wanted to go, but I really didn’t put much thought into how I would get there, so I kept circling the mountain and never started the climb.
Take your big goal, and break it down into smaller and smaller ones, until you have goals that are so tiny, they are easy to do. That’s what you want: small steps that seem trivial. It’s these small steps that lead to big achievements, and help you keep making progress.
If you don’t know what goals to make, you need to do some research. Talk with people already doing what you want to do. What steps did they take? Sometimes this information is already available online in the form of interviews, or courses. Other times, you’ll have to email people to ask. Whatever you do, decide that not having a plan is not an option. In fact, make the first step in your plan tomake a plan.
4. Ask For Help
Be willing to use your existing resources to ask for help.
I know that asking for help can feel awkward. Sometimes, it’s hard to be vulnerable and admit we don’t know something. But, the only way we can learn is if we ask.
All successful people rely on others to complete some tasks; it’s simply not possible for them to accomplish everything they have to in a single day. Beyond that, I don’t know of any case where someone has become very successful without help or advice of any kind.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help, we all need it from time to time.
For myself, sometimes I get stuck because I feel overwhelmed. I can’t act because I think there’s simply too much to do. Inevitably, this is a problem of focus. I’m looking at all the trees so I can’t see the forest.
Stop multitasking. Stop looking at all the things that you have to do. Instead, do one thing, and only look at the very next thing that needs doing— nothing else.
Simplifying what you have to do can relieve huge amounts of stress, especially when you’re overwhelmed.
Other Problems Blocking You
Potentially you know what to do next, but there are other issues preventing you from acting. I’d recommend you check out How to Overcome 8 Powerful Excuses for not Acting on our Dreams.
Now it’s your turn to make this post epic by contributing how you get out of a rut. What tips can you share with all of us to help us get un-stuck? What is your answer to “i don’t know what to do with my life” I’d love to hear from you!
Have a great day!